It’s been a while since I wrote a post about life as a married hijabi.
I wanted to write about love in Islam because I feel like its an important topic in every time and age.
In particular, I wanted to write about love between a Muslim husband and his wife.
Now, I want to warn you that I am not a marriage counselor or an expert in relationships, but I wanted to share with you some important gems from a Muslim wife’s perspective:
1) Your wife loves you: Sometimes Muslim men forget that their wives want the best for them. While it may seem like your wife is nagging you, your wife is trying to look out for you.
She wants you to succeed. For example, if your wife is trying to wake you up, it’s not that she doesn’t want you to sleep in, but she may be trying to make sure you don’t miss fajr or miss a good portion of your day. So next time you think your wife is nagging, think about what she is focusing on and why it seems to be important.
2) Your wife wants to be heard: A lot of wives notice this. Your wife is trying to relay an important story and the you are just nodding along but it turns out you had earbuds in and you were jamming to music (or nasheeds or Quran). If your wife is talking, try to make eye contact and really listen.
3) Your wife covers for you: If you see your wife is working hard with your kids, working hard outside, or even inside your home, try to appreciate that. She is covering all your bases and errands so that you can have a moment to get closer to Allah, relax, etc.
4) Never underestimate a nice break: It doesn’t matter what type of wife you have. If she is a woman, she will appreciate you even more for giving HER a break. For example, give her a break from the kids so she can spend some time with her friends, or plan a nice weekend getaway. I promise you those little acts of kindness go a long way.
If you can’t give her a break, at least try to appreciate your wife. Some wives love books. Others love chocolates. For us, I adore fresh cut flowers. So when my Hubster wants to make me feel appreciated, he brings me some flowers. It definitely helps make my day and I in turn try to spoil him too.
I hope these tips help. Let me know what you think!