Are Taking Selfies Dangerous?

Keep Calm and No Selfies

Taking selfies can be more damaging than you think.

I have an addiction. No I am not addicted to drugs, or alcohol, or anything that is traditionally deemed as destructive. However, deep down I know I have an addiction that could possibly be destructive. I am addicted to taking selfies. At first, I was all about just taking pictures of friends and families just to capture the moment. But it was when I was ruining happy moments to take selfies that I realized that my hobby of taking pictures has gone too far. Who am I really posting all my selfies for? I should be actually basking in the fun moments with my family versus taking a multiple pictures only to “delete” most of them and keep only the ones I thought were the most flattering.

My moment of realization actually came with seeing the movie Divergent. In the movie, there is a group of people called Abnegation who are kind and think of others. They deny themselves “pleasures” in order to stay connected to feeling empathy for others. One pivotal thing I noticed was that this group of people did not spend too much time looking in the mirror because they felt it bred vanity. When I saw this scene, I felt a moment of realization. I was spending way too much time worrying about how I look, taking selfies, and getting ready than I did about my fellow Muslims in Syria and all over the world. As I was trying to connect via selfies, I was actually disconnecting with reality.

Time recently reported how a teenager almost committed suicide when he came to realization that he couldn’t take the “perfect” selfie. Danny Bowman told The Mirror: “I was constantly in search of taking the perfect selfie and when I realized I couldn’t I wanted to die,” Bowman told the Daily Mirror. “I lost my friends, my education, my health and almost my life.”

I am opening up about my addiction with you lovelies because it is one that is spreading in our lovely Ummah faster than you can say bismillah. Like any new technology, there is good and bad that comes with it. The one nice thing about Instagram and selfies is that it has definitely normalized hijab for Americans. It has also served as inspiration for many sisters in the community who want to dress modestly, but also want to look stylish as well. However, the negative aspect is when you start to worry you are not “stylish” enough, harass your loved ones to take a ton of pictures of you, and you interrupt a perfectly lovely meal just to take snaps of yourself with food. I am not judging anyone. This post is about me. I am ashamed to admit that this is me. However, I do want to change. I have decided not to take pictures of myself no more than once a week. I have also promised myself to treat myself kindly. I know I may not be a super hijabi fashionista, but I try to be a good mom, wife and valued member of the community who helps others.

In fact, Shaykh Hamza Yusuf gave a khutba at MCC recently where he said that selfies should really be called nafsies (nafs is the term used for a human’s base desires and instincts). Do we really want to give in to our nafs on a daily basis? I know I don’t and I will try my best to stop myself from this selfie tendency. Here is what the Shaykh has said:

The end is coming and people will do anything to occupy their time to avoid the inevitability of Death.

People are completely distracted and they are not present in their lives.

People completely fade away as we are living in a very trivialized civilization.

The Prophet (peace & blessings upon him) has warned: the “The intellects will be removed from people”; these are our Prophetic traditions.

Do I really want to be one of those people whose intellect has been removed? I personally was scared when I heard this. I am so very lucky to have scholars locally here in the Bay Area to remind me, but I am writing this post to remind you. Let’s remove this selfie addiction and replace it with something more positive, like Suhaib Webb’s “Rug Life” if we feel the need to take a picture.

While I am still working on my digital addiction, I know it will take time. Granted, this is more self diagnosis than via a health professional, but I know it is something I need to change. Do any of you feel like you have the “selfie shakes” (when you literally start itching to take a selfie)? Let me know in the comments below.

Follow Friday: @Honeyfordays aka Hanan

Honeyfordays

Hanan aka Honeyfordays is the epitome of California cool.

Salaams my lovelies! I hope you are having a wonderful day inshallah. As you know, today is Follow Friday where I recommend a stylish hijabi on Instagram to follow. Today’s Follow Friday hijabi @honeyfordays (Hanan) is not only stylish and beautiful, but she also gives back to the community. I had the pleasure of meeting Hanan at the Fashion Fighting Famine San Francisco show in Jan 2014. I can vouch that she is not only stunning in photographs, but also very beautiful in real life too mashallah. @honeyfordays was modeling for FFFSF while I was MCing the show. I personally think it is wonderful when we see have hijabis who are trying to make a difference in their local communities. Unfortunately, we didn’t get to connect too much that day since we both were focused on making Fashion Fighting Famine SF successful, but I was struck by her poise and beauty in person for the brief moment we did meet! Actually, it was nice to meet a whole collective of stylish hijabis in the Bay Area overall. However, when @honeyfordays was on the runway you could literally hear a pin drop because all eyes were on her. She rocked her outfits like no one else because she has an effortless beauty about her.

@honeyfordays not only has killer style, she is a fresh faced beauty that can pull off dramatic eye makeup or trendy lip colors without looking overly done. Whether it’s a smoky kohl eye or a velvety plum lips, @honeyfordays can make trendy makeup looks more accessible. I love following her Instagram account if only to get ideas on how to wear makeup trends well. She is not a big accessory girl, but when she does wear accessories you know it. From bejeweled headbands to cinched belts, she wears accessories to complement HER, not her outfit.

Make sure to check out @honeyfordays on Instagram and while you are there, feel free to add me too @hijabilife!

Follow Friday: Imane Asry (Fashion With Faith)

Fashion With Faith

Imane Asry’s unique Swedish take on hijab is refreshing.

Salaams my lovelies! Jumah mubarak to you all! This is the last Friday of Ramadan this year which always makes me a little sad since there are countless blessings on days like today but they are gone before you know it. Let’s make this Friday count inshallah! As you know, I typically do a Follow Friday post on my favorite Instagram accounts. Today, I would like to introduce you to Sweden’s Iman Asry, aka Fashion With Faith (@fashionwithfaith). Why do I love Imane so much? She is definitely not a hijabi who takes herself too seriously. She posts amazing photos of her funky style, yet she also posts real life pictures of her time with friends and family. Did I mention she has a wicked sense of humor too? Her silly faces pictures are just as interesting to me as her “high fashion” pictures on her account. She makes being a stylish hijabi that much more accessible to regular hijabis like me. That is not to say she isn’t stunning. I mean look at her pictures! She has a fresh faced beauty that is refreshing to look at.  It is hard to find someone who does not resemble any one else in the hijabi vlogger world, but Imane is able to stand out with her mix of vintage with high fashion pieces.

She also makes me realize I have a wealth of stylish options in my closet already. With her styling, you can certainly come up with outfit combinations that you may have forgotten about. Her recent pictures reminded me I can reuse my Doc Martens from the 1990s with stripes versus the flowers I had paired it with in the past. Who says you can’t bring back fads?

Make sure to check her out on Instagram @fashionwithfaith and let me know what you think!

Follow Friday: Indah Nada Puspita

Indahnadapuspita

Indah Nada Puspita captures a fresh almost anime style for hijabis

Salaams and jumah mubarak my lovelies! I hope you are having a wonderful Friday inshallah. As you know, I typically do a Follow Friday blog post on a hijabi that I think is inspirational on Instagram. Today I want to introduce you to Indah Nada Puspita. a super cool hijabi blogger from Indonesia. She launched her own fashion line in 2012. One thing that really struck me was the theatricality of her styling. I guess that isn’t surprising since Indah Nada Puspita’s secret dream is to be an opera singer or Broadway actress.

I love her Instagram account because it illustrates how transformative hijabi style can be. Sometimes, Indah Nada Puspita is almost unrecognizable to me with her style transformations. So that is why I love to follow her and see different ways to shake up my own wardrobe and makeup so I don’t fall into a style/beauty rut. Make sure to follow @indahnadapuspita on Instagram for all sorts of fashion fun and let me know who you think I should feature next on my Follow Friday post!

Until then, keep living well and remember me in your prayers!

Follow Friday: Aisha Liinaa

Salaam my lovelies! Jumuah mubarak to you all. It’s been a hectic week, but expect a few more exciting blog posts in the next few days. I recently did a guest blog post for the amazing blog Haute Hijab on how hijabis seem to be bullying each other on social media platforms, and I plan to do a very special Meet the Brand blog post on Sixteenrscarves soon inshallah. Designer Nancy Hoque is just amazing woman and I can’t wait to share her insights on hijabi fashion, style, and wardrobe inspiration.

Okay, now that you know some of my updates, I wanted to share a very cute vlogger and Instagrammer with you. Her name is Aisha Liinaa, and she does the cutest hijab tutorials that are not only clearer than most, but also very funny. I happen to think she is a dead ringer for Amenakin from Pearl Daisy, but she does have her own unique sense of style which is why I think she warrants a “one to watch” status in my book. She is also mindful of selecting very accessible pieces and pulling them together in very beautiful outfits. She reminds me of the cute hijabi next door look with a dose of ethnic chic. Hailing from the UK, she even has that adorable British accent. Is it me, or does it seem like all the stylish hijabis are from the UK? I am from the U.S. so I may have to do some digging to find a cute American hijabi.

Well, make sure to check out Aisha Liinaa this week and follow her on Instagram for cute makeup and hijab tips @aishaliinaa.

Note to self: Feature an American hijabi for next Friday!

Follow Friday: Yaz the Spaz

Yaz the Spaz

Yaz the Spaz is an American vlogger who helps regular hijabis learn new hijabi styles.

This post is late, and for that I apologize! I started it on Friday, but it needed time and some love. I hope you like it regardless!

Salaam my lovelies! Jumah mubarak to you all! Friday is when I do my Follow Friday post, which features a hijabi with amazing style on Instagram. Today’s post features one of my favorite vloggers: Yaz the Spaz! For those of you who don’t know, Yaz the Spaz (Yasemin Kanar) is a popular YouTube hijabi. She started her channel with hijabi tutorials but has expanded to other social media channels as well. She has an Instagram account @yazthespaz89 that follows her on those social media journeys and is just as fun and bubbly as she is.

Her Instagram account not only features her daily hijabi style, it also features her friends and family. Hijabis can get a sneak peek at Yaz the Spaz’ baby sister Aysun Kanar’s style, her friends, and even her mom who she affectionately calls Momma Spaz. Her account also serves as fitness inspiration for hijabis. She features her healthy breakfasts, and what she does to work out and maintain her healthy physique. For my readers of mixed heritage, you will be glad to see that Yaz the Spaz embraces both her Cuban and her Turkish roots often. It shows us all the beauty in the diversity of our deen. Make sure to check out Yaz the Spaz and let me know what you think!

Follow Friday: Dina Toki-O

Dina Toki-O

Dina Toki-o has a funny sense of humor, but is stunning in her high fashion ensembles.

Jumah mubarak my lovelies! I know today is a tough and somber Friday. I promise to write a post with some gravity soon. However, I wanted to brighten up your spirits with a very funny and very colorful hijabi that you should follow on Instagram. Known as Dina Toki-o to her fans, her Instagram handle is @dinatokio. Her actual name is Dina Torkia. She is biracial with an English mother and an Egyptian father. While some hijabi fashionistas are more serious, Dina pokes fun at herself and uses endearing terms like “bideo” and “blang blaang” to sort of poke fun at slang we all know and use.

While some hijabis may find her too irreverent, I think some of her hijabi extremes actually translates to striking ways to wear hijab. I sort of view her style as the Vogue extreme. While it looks stunning, it may not work for most women but can be translated into something wearable for the rest of us. She has a background in fashion and really started putting a focus on hijabi fashion after she did some coursework in textiles. No wonder she knows how to mix her fabric textures so well mashallah!

Regardless of what you think, I still think her Instagram snaps are just so visually appealing that even if you don’t like her style, you will still smile. Let me know what you think! As always, you can follow me @hijabilife.

Follow Friday: Amenakin

Vlogger Amena Khan aka Amenakin

Vlogger Amena Khan aka Amenakin

Salaams my lovely readers and jumah mubarak to you all! As you know, I try to do a regular post every Friday about a fabulous Instagrammer that I love to follow. This Friday, I wanted to give a special shout out to one of my favorite vloggers: Amenakin. For those of you who don’t know, Amena Khan is a YouTube vlogger who goes by the handle Amenakin. Her YouTube hijab tutorials have won over the hearts of many hijabis and helped spawn the online hijab store Pearl Daisy. She now does lifestyle vlogs about her life as a vlogger as well as makeup tutorials.

One of the reasons I love Amenakin so much is that she is just so sweet mashallah. She always seems upbeat, happy, and most of all, she tries to encourage and interact with all of her fans. I don’t think I have come across a vlogger who seems so down to earth and approachable. I only hope that I can meet her one day soon inshallah and get one of those famous Amenakin hugs! Also, her hijab tutorials have made me hate the pashmina hijab look on me a little less and has given me ideas on how to dress up a little nicer for special occasions.

Make sure to follow her @pearldaisyltd on Instagram. Also, for more pics of my own, follow me @hijabilife :).

Follow Friday: Gary Pepper Girl Nicole Warne

Nicole Warne

Gary Pepper Girl Nicole Warne has an arresting array of photos on Instagram

Jumah mubarak my lovelies! I hope you are all having an amazing Friday inshallah. I typically share Follow Friday on a Muslim on Instagram who captures my attention. However, given the amazingly beautiful photographs on Nicole Warne’s Instagram, I had to share her with you. Nicole Warne is the founder of an online vintage store called Gary Pepper. She has a visual diary of her travels as an online fashionista. It mixes colors and nature in a way that can be translated for any hijabi who wants to brighten up her look. Her easy breezy style is easy to draw from and accessible. You can find pieces inspired by her in your local Forever 21, but it is how she mixes her pieces that makes her a knockout.

I love being swept away on her travels through her native Australia and her treks to fashion weeks all over the globe. You can find her on Instagram at garypeppergirl. Make sure to follow her for inspiration on fashion, travels, and just plain beautiful photography.